Integrity gives you bona fide game. I hope we all know this by now.
It takes a lot of energy to be a person of integrity. Which, one might argue should just be “person”. Integrity being inherent in humanness would be awesome.
For the sake of this argument, and the future of our species, let’s go ahead and marry integrity right to humanity and say that if you want to be more than a bipedal amoeba, (Please don’t be an amoeba. Primal pleasure seeking and pain avoidance is so Pleistocene) you will need bravery, awareness, and a sound support system.
Modern life is complicated with loads of tiny decisions and choices all day long that are both meaningful and less meaningful because somewhere someone is dying a slow death in a factory making the iPhone you’re grocery list is on and it brings the whole construct of importance crashing down but you still have to bring home peanut butter lest you starve your child. A cracked screen on that iPhone can bring your own life to a screeching stall.
Ugh. I may have just pulled a Nationwide. Sorry.*
But I’m generally conflicted about all of it.
Like, I can’t decide if I’m more concerned when gas is super expensive or incredibly cheap. Parenting is a crap shoot. It was only this last week when I was remanded to my bed with the flu that it occurred to me that the emoji alphabet doesn’t have any black people. One of the many racial blind spots that are directly or indirectly causing an inequality I loathe. And so much more. Don’t even get me started on dating. Or do. But not here.
The thing is that it’s paramount that you protect that energy so you can allocate it intentionally
For most of us, that’s a learned skill. And one we are constantly needing to hone. We have never been this saturated with information and opportunity, you guys.
For example, I know about that Nationwide thing, and most of the high points of the Superbowl and I spent the whole thing making granola and hummus in a screen-free kitchen. The information is in the ether.
You will have to say no. A lot.
You might have to stop running and take the carrot off of the stick.
You might have to revisit the necessity of certain relationships in your life.
You might have to find ways to increase your energy and clarity through clean eating and doing things that make your body a stronger, more flexible vehicle that gets better mileage.
You might need a nap.
You might have to persevere with hope despite confusion. Like Howard Zinn said,
“To be hopeful in bad times is not just foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty, but also of compassion, sacrifice, courage, kindness.
What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something. If we remember those times and places—and there are so many—where people have behaved magnificently, this gives us the energy to act, and at least the possibility of sending this spinning top of a world in a different direction.
And if we do act, in however small a way, we don’t have to wait for some grand utopian future. The future is an infinite succession of presents, and to live now as we think human beings should live, in defiance of all that is bad around us, is itself a marvelous victory.”
So you might. But, maybe you already are. I know that whatever it is that will keep you strong, hopeful, and a person of deep integrity, you got this. Because, really, you’re already doing a hell of a job. The way you get out of bed and carry on caring about stuff is truly remarkable.
I, for one, am so glad you’re here.
*Google it if you must. I just can’t be bothered to link.
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