“Just press the keys”, I say to myself.
Sit down and push the letters until words and sentences go from brain, through fingertips, to screen.
Writing. The wrangling of story, the invitation to conversation, conversion, and salvation, the way we increasingly communicate, connect, realize, theorize, humanize.
The keyboard is mightier than the sword? Maybe. It gets me to you.
Writing reminds me that I’m going to need a more useful skill for the apocalypse.
I don’t want to do my taxes. I get tired of trying to figure out what to eat three times a day. I wish someone else would do it. I want systems handed to me on pretty dishes. I hate rules. I put so much pressure on myself not to disappoint you, it can paralyze me.
I wonder if you feel that way too.
I usually decide you do.
That makes my heart feel like soft butter and melts me closer to us.
Professionally, I want to talk to you about Spring and season change things. Remind you that while Spring explodes with new life and impetus, it’s important to remain reverent.
Spring is an intensely condensed energy – pure potential packed into a tiny container. Like a seed. It can be like a storm inside of you bursting to get out and, in addition to new ideas, relationships, daylight hours, and opportunities, Spring can cause headaches, anxiety and digestive disorders.
I’m not trying to advocate the devil or take you to negativetown. It’s really just a reminder to expect and embrace the pollen as well as the lilacs. It saves you a lot of time acting surprised and confused later. You get to wake up more.
Here are some things you can do to self care in the spring so you get to have the whole experience:
- Take epsom salt baths.
- Use your neti pot.
- Drink water.
- Sweat – exercise/epsom bath/sauna/steam.
- Go outside and breathe.(Bonus points for giving props to trees while you do.)
- Should such a thing be available to you… get sunshine on your skin.
- Eat spring greens, sprouts, seeds, fresh vegetables, baby vegetables, edible flowers, raw local honey… do you see the theme?
When you’re more awake, and being efficient about your time and energy, you get to be more engaged! So many things require your engagement, you guys. Like the deep end conversations about equality, health, gender, race and cultural justice. Yours. Ours.
What kind of world do we want? What kind of community? What kind of home? What kind of body?
I want mine to be kind, clear, harmonious, abundant, colorful, and to have enough polarity to create electricity and vitality. I want yours to be that too. So we can hang out. Raise our children together. You know.
“And kid, you’ve got to love yourself. You’ve got wake up at four in the morning, brew black coffee, and stare at the birds drowning in the darkness of the dawn. You’ve got to sit next to the man at the train station who’s reading your favorite book and start a conversation. You’ve got to come home after a bad day and burn your skin from a shower. Then you’ve got to wash all your sheets until they smell of lemon detergent you bought for four dollars at the local grocery store. You’ve got to stop taking everything so goddam personally. You are not the moon kissing the black sky. You’ve got to compliment someone’s crooked brows at an art fair and tell them that their eyes remind you of green swimming pools in mid July. You’ve got to stop letting yourself get upset about things that won’t matter in two years. Sleep in on Saturday mornings and wake yourself up early on Sunday. You’ve got to stop worrying about what you’re going to tell her when she finds out. You’ve got to stop over thinking why he stopped caring about you over six months ago. You’ve got to stop asking everyone for their opinions. Fuck it. Love yourself, kiddo. You’ve got to love yourself.” — Unknown
I wish I had written that. Or knew who did.
Press the keys. Just sit down and press the keys, Meg. It all gets easier with practice.
I’m so glad you’re here.
P.S. These links are good and definitely worth your time.
The amazing organization I work with, A Social Ignition, is running a crowdfunding campaign. It’s work that affects so many facets of our culture (all those words I said earlier about engaging in deep end conversations are here). Please consider making a contribution.
This is a super sweet podcast I did recently with Sas Pethrick for her brand new “Ask the Aunties” series. We tackle the super important and sensitive topic of intimacy, connection, and adult virginity.
Wonderful Tiffany Han interviewed me here about authenticity and owning your own life. We had a blast. Spoiler: Authenticity is a moving target and most things come down to just not being an asshole.
THIS HUMMINGBIRD IS SNORING. THAT IS ALL.