We don’t want to be thin because thinness is inherently life-affirming or lovable or healthy. If this were true, there would be no tribes in Africa in which women are fat and regal and long-lived. There would be no history of matriarchies in which women’s fecundity and sheer physical abundance were worshiped. We want to be thin because thinness is the purported currency of happiness and peace and contentment in our time. And although that currency is a lie—the tabloids are filled with miserable skinny celebrities—most systems of weight loss fail because they don’t live up to their promise: weight loss does not make people happy. Or peaceful. OR content. Being thin does not address the emptiness that has no shape or weight or name. Even a wildly successful diet is a colossal failure because inside the new body is the same sinking heart. Spiritual hunger can never be solved on the physical level.”
~ Geneen Roth, Women Food and God
Losing weight is not actually synonymous with “health”. In fact, it can counter true wellness. Living light is lovely. Having a communicative relationship with the particular complexities of your body can be a wonderful foundation for feeling stronger in the world, for giving and receiving compassion. But the relentless deification of thinness hurts us all.
It gives us straight up inaccurate information, strangling our value up in a tight, unrealistic container. It externalizes internal worth in a way that can eradicate it beyond recognition.
The message that deprivation equals control and piousness denies us access to one of our most powerful allies: our hunger.
What if your hunger isn’t weakness at all, but one of your greatest sources of strength?
What if your hunger is normal, beautiful even?
There are three main presentations of hunger:
I’m going to write about each of them over the next few weeks as an invitation to get to know yours a little better.
It is an invitation to redefine, and maybe overhaul, your definition of hunger from being shameful, flawed, and unattractive to being an ardent mechanism for knowing what’s the next right thing to do.
An invitation to utilize, rather than suppress, this potent processor that allows you to digest and transform food and information into culture, art, and love.
An invitation to recognize that you are not your hungers. You have hungers. They motivate and move you, they are the impetus that makes your world more rich, more full.
Also, my world. So thank you for that.
Here’s something you might or might not know about me:
Yes, I’m a health coach and I supposedly help people lose weight and blah blah blah. But I *actually* deal in the currency of humanity.
The humanity of hunger.
I help people develop a more allied, than adversarial, relationship with their bodies, their emotions, and ultimately, their satisfaction
So, stick around for the writing, but perhaps we should also be working together. I have space in my practice and am happily accepting new clients.
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